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  1. I think these comments pretty well sum up my family. Alcohol as used but never abused until their later year. Family alcohol use went back at least 2 generations that I know of. After I left home my younger siblings had to deal with my father’s abuse. A lot of stories to share there but not here. I especially heard “It’s 5 o’clock somewhere” from my mother. Although he was never an abuser. My father was at the end of his life.

  2. When I was young my parents had a drink only on special occasions. Later in life they would indulge in a “nightcap”. I never saw either one over drunk.

    Dad was extremely reserved and quiet. He outlived my mom by many years. In those later years I enjoyed those “nightcaps” with him when I visited, because after 1 1/2 drinks he would tell stories about his past I had never heard before. When he hit his 80’s he quit the nightcaps because they bothered his sleep.

    I can’t blame my parents for my over-drinking. In fact, I didn’t really over drink until my late 40’s, when daily drinking invisibly crept up into occasional over-drinking, then after retirement into more frequent over-drinking. One factor of my over-drinking was that I wanted to be different from my family of origin, and fit in with social circles who drank more (but were not heavy drinkers). Drinking became a part of daily life even though that is not how I was raised.

  3. Like the other commenters, drinking was part of my parent’s daily life. When Dad got home from work, they always sat down for 2 beers before dinner. In my childhood years, I don’t remember them drinking after dinner. My mother grew up with an abusive, heavy drinking father and she always drank in moderation. I can only remember one time I saw her tipsy. My father, on the other hand, was not a daily heavy drinker but almost all my parents fights during my childhood were about his drinking. After my mother died, his drinking increased even more, and as an adult at the time, I joined him. We were drinking buddies. I think he worried about my drinking but I remember that I quit for a couple of weeks when I was taking care of him during an illness and, when I resumed drinking again, he said, “Good.”

  4. My parents, their friends, and all my relatives modeled for me and my siblings that alcohol was an essential part of adult life, the reward for getting through the stresses of a day and necessary for any celebration at any time ( “It’s 5 o’clock somewhere.”) It is very hard to overcome that conditioning, especially when it is reinforced in advertising, movies, TV shows, etc.

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