Day 3: Glass Jar-A Tangible Tool

“If you’re never able to tolerate a little bit of pain and discomfort, you’ll never get better” – Angela Duckworth, Psychologist So, you’ve made the decision to stop drinking for a month. You will experience numerous benefits including clearer thinking, weight loss, increased energy and productivity, reduced cardiovascular risks, better skin, saved money, improved sleep,…

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Day 4: What Is Your WHY?

“When you feel like quitting, think about why you started.” — Unknown   A few weeks ago, in preparation for writing this post, I asked members of the Moderation Management Private Facebook what their motivation was for taking a month off from drinking. Here’s what they had to say:   “Dryuary: Reset, Rejuvenate, Reflect.” (this…

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Day 9: The Scavenger Hunt

“You can either be a victim of the world or an adventurer in search of treasure. It all depends on how you view your life.”― Paulo Coelho, Eleven Minutes Chances are, you’re already beginning to wonder why you signed up for this whole Dryuary thing. What were you thinking? What’s the point of spending a whole month…

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Day 18: Saying Yes

“If you must say yes, say it with an open heart. If you must say no, say it without fear” – Paulo Coelho What if, for the sake of this Dry January, instead of saying no to a drink, you were committed to saying yes? No is a powerful word.  It presents us with a…

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Day 19: Are We There Yet?

“Don’t let yesterday take up too much of today.” – Will Rogers   Are we there yet, is 2020 over?  Wait, I just realized: by the time you’re reading this, it is!  Another year is in the books – a crazy and stressful year – and Dryuary is back again.  I’m thankful to take this…

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Day 21: Confidence

“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ ” – Eleanor Roosevelt   As we make our way through Dryuary, we will…

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Day 22: The Inner Negotiator

(The author, Beej Christie Karpan, is on oboe in this piece!)   “Live the story you want to tell” — Topaz As you near the end of Dryuary, if you’re considering moderate drinking you’re probably thinking a lot about the tools you’ve built up, and the support you’ll need in order to stay on track.…

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Day 24: Changing Habits

“The secret of getting ahead is getting started.” – Mark Twain Changing Habits  Changing habits like drinking can be challenging yet are doable. Here is an outline of the steps clinical research (and the experiences of my clients over the years) suggests are helpful when making a change. Build Your Motivation and Commitment See my…

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Day 25: My Real Toolbox

“To the man who only has a hammer, everything he encounters begins to look like a nail.” ― Abraham Maslow I was thinking about my toolbox the other day, my real toolbox that is, and comparing it to my moderation toolbox.  I hauled the real toolbox up from the basement; it’s a hard plastic case…

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Day 27: Support Options

  “Though this universe I own, I possess not a thing, for I cannot know the unknown if to the known I cling.” – Robert Fisher, The Knight in Rusty Armor In our journey to self-regulation, and especially after 2020, we can sometimes feel like we are living inside of crazy. While swinging from the…

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Day 28: Is Moderation Possible?

 “You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.” ― C. S. Lewis As you approach the end of your month of abstinence, hopefully you’re reflecting back on all the lessons you’ve learned.  Perhaps you’ve realized that it’s possible to participate in social events…

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Day 31: Finish Line Ahead

 Congratulations! We did it! The finish line is right up ahead. How was the ride? If you’ve done the Dryuary ride before, did you visit some of your old favorite places? Did you ride further than you rode in past Dryuary’s? If this was your first Dryuary, did you lose your fear of falling?…

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